If You Want Her Attention Start Giving Yours To Someone Else

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Look, I’m not saying I have all the answers, but I’ve played this game long enough to know one thing for sure, if you want her attention, stop begging for it and start giving yours to someone else. It’s not toxic, it’s just game.

When you're 25, you start to realize something crucial, no one, especially not women, wants what’s easy to get. If you’re texting her good morning every day, double tapping every story, and heart-reacting to every mirror selfie she posts… congrats, you’re officially background noise. You're basically the podcast Ad she skips without even thinking about.

Now flip the script. The second you take a step back, the second your name doesn't pop up in her notifications, she notices. That “where’s he been?” thought creeps in. That curiosity? That’s where the money is made. You don’t even have to post another girl (but you can and trust me it works). Just start showing up in new places, doing new things, maybe even interacting with someone else she low key sees as competition. The minute she thinks you might actually be entertaining someone else, she suddenly wants to make sure you’re not.

It’s human nature. People value what they think they might lose. She didn’t respond to your text? Cool, go take shots with someone who will. She’s been dry for three days? No problem, go get brunch with someone who laughs at your dumb jokes.

And no, this isn’t about manipulation. It’s about matching energy. If she’s showing you indifference, stop giving her obsession. You can’t force chemistry, but you can control your attention. And when you learn to give it wisely, that’s when you start winning.

At 25, you’re too young to be simping and too old to be getting played. You should be out there living, not waiting around for someone to “maybe” text you back.

So next time she ghosts, instead of spiraling, start popping off somewhere else. Because nothing gets her attention faster than realizing yours is no longer hers by default.

I don’t make the rules I just play the game.