Does Making Him Wait Actually Change Anything?

I’m not sure how many 18–25-year-old women read the Barstool blog, but I’ve never quite understood the whole “make him wait” approach when it comes to sex. Fellas, correct me if I’m wrong here, but in most cases, making a guy wait might buy you a few extra dates or a couple more weeks of texting, but if his only intention is to sleep with you, he’s going to disappear the moment he does, regardless of how long he waited.

Speaking personally, I usually know within the first 30 minutes whether I’m genuinely interested in someone longterm. Whether we sleep together on the first night or not doesn’t change that. Maybe it's a chemistry or intuition thing, but I believe most guys have a pretty immediate sense of where they see things going, while it might take women a little longer to figure that out.

If I feel a real connection with a girl and we hook up the first night, I’m the type to ask her to grab coffee the next morning or hang out the next day. But if I’m only in it for a one time thing, I’ll be gone by morning regardless of whether anything happened or not. Harsh? Maybe. But I think a lot of people, men and women, feel the same, even if they don’t always admit it.

My point is, making a guy wait doesn’t increase your value in his eyes if he wasn’t serious to begin with. It just intensifies his short term desire to sleep with you, not his longterm interest. In some ways, that can be more misleading. Plus, it’s important to know early on if there’s actual chemistry.

Now, am I suggesting you should hook up with every person you meet? Absolutely not. But I am saying that waiting doesn't make someone a better person or guarantee a stronger relationship. If the spark is real and mutual, there’s nothing wrong with letting things happen naturally.