How To Handle The Post Break Up Thirst Trap

It’s either the moment you’ve been waiting for or the moment you’ve dreaded since the day you started dating—but either way, it’s inevitable. The first Instagram post after a breakup.

Whether you know her personally or not, everyone can recognize a post-breakup post when they see one. It’s the clearest message a girl can send. There’s no subtlety—this isn’t some cryptic, subliminal message. The post-breakup Instagram post is a loud, unmistakable announcement to the world: Hey, I’m single. DMs are open.

And if you’re the ex? Well, it’s one of the lowest moments of your life. Deep down, you know the relationship wasn’t meant to be, but when that picture pops up on your feed, you’re not thinking with your brain—you’re thinking with your dick. And the harsh reality settles in: you’ll probably never sleep with her again. However, if you’re the guy whose been praying on the relationships downfall this is one of the best days of your life.

So, how do you handle this emotional gut punch? The simple answer—just block her after the breakup. Out of sight, out of mind. It’s the cleanest, healthiest way to move on. But if you’re looking for a more toxic approach, you could always drop a couple of laughing emojis on her post—just to let her (and everyone else) know you see what she’s doing.

I was talking to Ella about this the other day, and she tried to argue that girls don’t always post these photos to make their ex jealous (yeah, sure, dude). But even if that’s not their main objective, the underlying message is the same. By putting out the equivalent of a bat signal for new suitors, she’s indirectly making sure her ex sees what he’s missing. It’s a flex, whether intentional or not.

So, when you see her flaunting her post-breakup glow, save yourself the downward spiral. Don’t overanalyze, don’t torture yourself by staring at your ceiling wondering, What have I done? Just block her, move on, and live your life.